Asexuality: The Overlooked Letter in the Acronym

Of course love wins. But what if your sexuality is defined by an absence of sexual attraction, or you only feel lovey dovey under really specific circumstances? Cue asexuality, the often overlooked, usually misunderstood, letter in the LGBTQIA+ acronym. Writer, educator, and advocate Elle Rose explains what it is, its social and professional implications, and why it deserves more prominence in queer spaces.

Elle Rose

Bridget Finkeldey

Elle Rose, also known online as scretladyspider, is an agender demisexual and graysexual writer, educator, and advocate. Elle wrote a tweet about Spongebob’s asexuality in 2020, and it went viral. Realizing that there was a lot of misinformation about the asexual spectrum, and being demisexual herself, she started writing a blog about demisexuality. Since then she has become something of a leader in the online asexual community, particularly concerning demisexuality and graysexuality. She has been interviewed about demisexuality by the BBC, Cosmopolitan, Healthline, The Sydney Morning Herald, Lesflicks, and the Poema podcast. She has also been a panelist for India Aces and AVEN. In 2023 she is publishing a book about demisexuality with Jessica Kingsley Publishers.

Meg Alexander

Bridget Finkeldey

Meg Alexander joined the PowerToFly community as a job-seeker in 2014, eventually landing her first remote role working for PowerToFly's Delivery Team. Her professional experience includes roles as a Talent Advocate, Head of Purchasing for a window factory, audiobook publishing, & more than 5 years as a paralegal. She has a bachelor's degree in Art History from Indiana University (mint condition, never been used!), where she also earned a varsity letter for Women's Rowing. She loves DIY projects and will never say no to french fries. She lives in Toledo, OH with her husband Aaron, an engineering technician, and their dogs, Radar & Cake.