Beth Ruffin, P&C Consultant and our guest speaker, Yvonne Alston discussed the larger theme of allyship and how to be effective allies for our peers.
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📝Key Takeaways
After watching the session, you will gain the following insights and actionable steps:
Takeaway 1: Allyship is a Verb, Not a Noun
Key Point: Authentic allyship requires ongoing commitment to unlearning, learning anew, and taking courageous action rather than simply declaring yourself an ally.
Action Item: Start educating yourself about challenges faced by different marginalized groups without expecting those groups to do the educating for you. Commit to reading one article, watching one video, or engaging with one resource each week about different identities and experiences.
Takeaway 2: Always Ask Before Acting - Consent is Critical
Key Point: Well-intentioned help can cause harm if you don't first understand what someone actually needs. The "savior complex" can undermine the very people you're trying to support.
Action Item: When you witness someone being marginalized or want to offer support, ask: "I noticed [situation]. I'd like to support you if you need it - what would be most helpful?" or "Do you want me to just listen, or do you want me to help you solve this?"
Takeaway 3: Listen to Believe, Not to Understand
Key Point: When someone shares their experience of discrimination or marginalization, don't invalidate it by comparing it to your own experience with that person or situation. Focus on believing their lived experience.
Action Item: Practice responding to others' experiences with validation rather than defensiveness. Replace phrases like "I'm sure they didn't mean it that way" with "Thank you for sharing that with me. That sounds really difficult. How can I support you?" Even if you haven't experienced something similar, commit to believing and validating others' experiences.
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